Оказывается, не только русские девченки влюбляются в турков!
ниже посты из форума на turkey.com! - это просто болезнь какая-то...
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I live in Sacramento California and have fallen madly in love with a guy from Turkey. He is really wonderful. We have chatted for 6 months, exchanged pics, talked for hours and are ready to meet. My family is afraid for me to travel there so i want him to come here. Would it be safe for me to go there if i am staying with him and his family?
should i have him come here first, what are guys really like in turkey, what should i expect from this. Just looking for any advice anyone can give me. Would appreciate it very much. Any advice would be welcomed. thank you to all


30th August 2001 06:39 IP: Logged

mystik
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Kitten,
What city does your potential boyfriend live in just curious. I am also in California, and I lived in Turkey for year, I went to a private University there. I think staying with your friend's family would be stressful, if you enroll in some classes at the University or language classes at a private school, then you can stay in school housing. My family was also anxious when I went to Turkey but that was because they had never been there, well except my Dad he was there in the 70's as a child and Turkey was experiencing political problems. I hope to return soon, also while I was there I had a boyfriend we were together for a year, and my heart belongs to him, yet his is still there and I am still here.
Men I believe are the same everywhere, generally I don't think a person's personality is all that effected by their nationality, but I think Turkish men has some quirks about them that maybe the American guys I know don't have.


30th August 2001 11:24 IP: Logged

IstanbulDogumlu
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Ozan bey.

Our Sexology expert, what is your take on this ?
Hmmm, this sounds like a good research subject to me.



31st August 2001 03:43 IP: Logged

Beaches
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Hi Sacramento girl,

Welcome to Turkey.com

My advice is : tell him to come to Sacramento.If it doesnt work out, it is his money and his time.Otherwise you will regret that you traveled around the world and spend tons of money just to see this guy.

Where is he from??It sounds weird but it is important.
is he religious??is his parents religious?
is he well educated?
Is he writing from home or from an Internet cafe?


By the way, I love Sacramento, spent summers in Fair Oaks!!



31st August 2001 05:21 IP: Logged

Ozanyarman
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Ozan bey.

Our Sexology expert, what is your take on this ?
Hmmm, this sounds like a good research subject to me.

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Ah Istanbullu Beyzadem! Let me see how I can be of assistance:

It seems to me that the young generation has an irreversible tendenciy to mix their genes on the international level, given the modern-day comforts of world-travel and multi-cultural blend. But this brings about many natural incompatibilities such as race-distrust, cultural handicaps, religious issues...

I suggest a neutral zone for meetings! How about if all such couples agree on a place EQUALLY DISTANT to where they reside? That would balance things and be fair as well.
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31st August 2001 17:46 IP: Logged

Kitten3660
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Originally posted by mystik
Kitten,
What city does your potential boyfriend live in just curious. I am also in California, and I lived in Turkey for year, I went to a private University there. I think staying with your friend's family would be stressful, if you enroll in some classes at the University or language classes at a private school, then you can stay in school housing. My family was also anxious when I went to Turkey but that was because they had never been there, well except my Dad he was there in the 70's as a child and Turkey was experiencing political problems. I hope to return soon, also while I was there I had a boyfriend we were together for a year, and my heart belongs to him, yet his is still there and I am still here.
Men I believe are the same everywhere, generally I don't think a person's personality is all that effected by their nationality, but I think Turkish men has some quirks about them that maybe the American guys I know don't have.
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1st September 2001 07:11 IP: Logged

Kitten3660
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[well thank you for responding, i can imagine it is hard to be away from your boyfriend. I am really turning off to american men lately. I think he is coming here to meet me and maybe then i will know more. so what are the quirks you meant???


1st September 2001 07:15 IP: Logged

Kitten3660
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Originally posted by mystik
Kitten,
he lives in Istanbul



1st September 2001 07:16 IP: Logged

Kitten3660
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Originally posted by Beaches
Hi Sacramento girl,

Welcome to Turkey.com

My advice is : tell him to come to Sacramento.If it doesnt work out, it is his money and his time.Otherwise you will regret that you traveled around the world and spend tons of money just to see this guy.

Where is he from??It sounds weird but it is important.
is he religious??is his parents religious?
is he well educated?
Is he writing from home or from an Internet cafe?


By the way, I love Sacramento, spent summers in Fair Oaks!!

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Hey thank u for responding. well he is not religious, nor are his parents, he is very well educated speaks 4 languages, he is writing from home. He also has long hair and is alot younger than me which is normal for me. Age is not the issue, i am crazy about this guy. What do you think?


1st September 2001 07:18 IP: Logged

Nobles252000
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I was in Turkey for a month over the summer. We stayed in Istanbul for two weeks. To me it seemed safe. What part of Istanbul is he from? We stayed on the Asian side but I heard the Euorpean side is even safer. As far as going to another country to meet a guy I would be careful if I was you. Talking to him and actually meeting him are two different things. What you see isn't always what you get. I think for you as a girl you should either bring someone with you just in case something bad happens or have him come to you because it is familiar and if you have a problem you know how to deal with it here. Good luck though I whatever you do. I am sure that he is really nice. Everyone I met in Turkey was really nice.


1st September 2001 08:14 IP: Logged

mystik
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Kitten as far as quirks go... I think in general Turkish men, I am talking though about my male friends and my boyfriend and my friend's boyfriends...so I can't say about all men....well anyway, I think they are more protective, not to be confused with possesive, but protective in a good way. I think Turkish men are raised to be men from a young age...let me see....whenever I meet a guy for the first time I ask him what color my eyes are. My hair is blonde so from AMerican guys they always say blue or green, not one AMerican guy has ever noticed the color of my eyes (brown) even my brother didn't know when I asked him. When I met my boyfriend he new immediately because he actually looked at my eyes....I could go on, but I don't want to sound mushy.
BUt I agree with the others he should come here....but if you are really interested in Turkish at all, go to Istanbul and take a short term language course. I think it is important that both people understand the other's enviroment and culture, that is why I am waiting for my boyfriend to come here and see me in my native enviroment, he only know me in Turkey, I am different here, and maybe he wouldn't like it or maybe he can't get used to it, though I don't think it will be a problem.


1st September 2001 11:50 IP: Logged

alejandra
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Hi ,

I really understand your being in love and wanting to meet this person because I feel the same way about a turkish man.

My advice would be to think for a moment that you can╢t be so bold and stay with him and his family. It would be better if you went to Turkey and meet him ocassionally and get to know him better this way, but not getting involved so fast. It is a very different thing to actually meet him and discover how he really is.

Let things happen, but be careful.
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17th September 2001 04:14 IP: Logged

anna_r
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in love with a turkish fellow
Hi Kitten,

About 7 months ago I met a Turkish guy online--we met thru a mutual search for religious music (long story!)

Anyway, at first we were just friends, then we became good friends, and now we are in love with each other. He is 1o yrs younger than me, we have swapped current pictures, talked by phone many times, email and IM every day.

He was going to come over here next month but the war situation now makes that very unlikely. I am worried because he is in the Turkish Army reserve and if Turkey gets into this war he may get called up!!

I have come to learn so much about Turkey from him...he has been so kind to me, sending me gifts of jewelry, many things. We have almost everything in common, even birthdays!

There is one problem--I'm married. (sigh) My husband knows about him but thinks we are "just friends". He is coming here to meet me (on hold now indefinitely due to the war situation) because I cannot go to Turkey without my husband being suspicious! But if we find we truly are meant for each other as we both believe we are, I will be leaving my husband to marry him.

I used a psuedonym to join this forum and post this msg, for fear of anyone seeing this who MIGHT know my husband. I need to keep this entirely secret for obvious reasons.

I have never before met any man with whom I shared so many hopes, dreams, sorrows, ideas, beliefs. I know how you feel! (((HUGS)))

Love,

Anna



18th September 2001 00:13 IP: Logged

anna_r
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to MYSTIK
I can relate to what you said about Turkish men! My love often advises me not to give out my email address to people on messageboards (he knows I read and post to a number of them, because he reads them now too to see what I write there.) He has been very protective of me, and it really makes me feel loved and special. My husband does not even do that.

I also can relate to what you said about them noticing your eyes. When I first sent him pictures of me, he kept telling me how beautiful, dark and mysterious my (brown) eyes are. He said I look to him like a beautiful Turkish Jewish girl (I'm Jewish and so is he.) I have long, dark hair, Meditteranean complexion (my mother is Italian) and actually, he and I look like we could be brother and sister!

BTW does anybody know what Ankara is like? That is where he lives.


18th September 2001 00:19 IP: Logged

SuperSonic
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anna, you got a tough situation. I'm suprised that you would break the commitment to your husband. Well, that's non of my business. I had Jewish parents. So take care! Turkish Military is the best in the world [not in terms of weapons, etc] But it would be very hard to beat the Turkish Military. I think your lover will love you, but you got your husband as a problem.